Radical
Selfishness
A MIND MAP FOR FAMILIES
Do you want your family to thrive and blossom?
YES
NO
How much do you want it to thrive – a little bit, or as much as possible?
As much as possible!
I'm satisfied with the minimum.
Do you want family growth to be sustainable and effortless or to feel like pulling teeth?
I want sustainable, effortless growth.
I want constant headaches.
Can you personally perform every single task required for your family to thrive effortlessly?
Yes, I'm
God.
No, I need the coordinated effort of my family members.
Which type of family would you prefer to participate in?
A Heroic Family
A Sinking Ship
Which descriptors do you think more precisely define a heroic family member?
Leads by Example
Earns Respect
Brings the Vibe
Keeps Learning
Knows Purpose
Exudes Health
Is Formidable
Is...
Disorganized
Purposeless
Resentful
Unmotivated
Which type of leader do you think is more likely to inspire family members to become heroic?
Leads by Example
Earns Respect
Brings the Vibe
Keeps Learning
Knows Purpose
Exudes Health
Is Formidable
(Like produces like.)
Is...
Disorganized
Purposeless Resentful
Unmotivated
Which type of home environment do you think is more likely to produce a heroic family?
An environment where everyone cares.
An environment where no one cares.
How do family members become heroic and create heroic home environments?
By learning from someone who knows how.
Luck.
What do you want to do?
Hope for better outcomes.
SELFISHNESS
noun
a concern for one's own welfare or advantage at the expense of or in disregard of others
RADICAL SELFISHNESS
noun
a concern for developing one's own leadership qualities at the expense of one's own selfishness and with regard for others
A Tale of Two Families
THE
DYNAMIC FAMILY
DYNAMIC LEADERSHIP
rewards effort, embraces change;
produces dynamic thinking
DYNAMIC THINKING
learns to trust hard work, becomes resilient;
produces dynamic performance
DYNAMIC PERFORMANCE
inspires, invigorates, and innovates;
produces The Oasis
THE OASIS
family enjoys being at home;
family is clear about principles & values;
family is enthusiastic;
proud to be part of the family;
energy, health, and inspiration are renewed;
values and legacy endure
THE
STATIC FAMILY
STATIC LEADERSHIP
rewards outcomes, resists change;
produces static thinking
STATIC THINKING
learns to fear failure, becomes resentful;
produces static performance
STATIC PERFORMANCE
discourages, drains energy, and stagnates;
produces The Desert
THE DESERT
family avoids being at home;
family is unclear about principles & values;
family is apathetic;
embarrassed to be part of the family;
energy, health, and inspiration dissipate;
values and legacy terminate
